Tag: well-being

What do your words say even when you are away?

We say so much and forget about it. Encouraging happy words can lift soneone’s spirits and propel them to happiness and success. However harsh words can inflict the deepest wounds, they leave scars that are a reminder of that horrible event/ emotion felt at a time that you wish never happened. We are often told to think before we speak and when our thinking is distorted then perhaps the best way to communicate is to be ‘silent’.. no point in doing more harm than that is already done.

Our words can sometimes leave lasting echoes in people’s minds. What will your words say even when you are away?

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Planning ahead or stressing too much?

I am a planner, I love to envision my outcome and slowly work towards it. However one important lesson that life has taught me is ‘not to be controlling’ . We try our best to control events, people and our future but does it work? No !! It only makes us frustrated as our eyes are on a certain prize and when we don’t see things happening as we wish to it upsets the whole equation. So my motto is .

Plan, be prepared but also be flexible.

I can’t understand when some people overdo the planning bit and as soon as a situation comes up they think of the worst possible outcome and keep stressing . I feel this just means putting yourself in agony. Also I am a die-hard positive thinker. It’s infact my survival tool.

I recently came upon an interesting post on linked in, sharing here for reference and credit for this thought-provoking concept that if dealt in the right way can make lives much easier and more pleasant not such for the worrier but people around them. Here it is :

What are your thoughts? Are you a planner or a stressor or simply go with the flow?

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5 Things that help you become stronger

There are times in our lives when we feel down, aches and pains seem to envelop us. There is no energy or will to move on. However, life has to go on and only we can actually get ourselves out of this dismal state. The top 5 things that helped me to move on in dark times are ….

1. Forgive those who have hurt you

Definitely not easy, it takes a lot of strength to actually overcome that negativity and trauma. However, it has become my no.1 survival technique. I forgive not because I am selfless and have a big heart but because I cannot carry that heavy baggage around. Unless I put aside that baggage, I am unable to see the road ahead. Makes sense? .. Try it you will definitely feel much lighter and stronger.

2.  Stop living in the past

How can we ever see a new future when we constantly think, complain about or dwell in the past. What happened earlier, happened for a reason. Learn from the challenges and mistakes and start a new chapter in your life. Your life is what you make of it. Follow your dreams, life is too short to be wasted in self-pity and anger.

3.  Look after your well-being

Eat well, sleep well, exercise daily. A healthy body develops a healthy mind, it keeps you energised and charged to take on whatever life throws at you. Meditate, pray, practice mindfulness .. spend sometime on emotional and spiritual well-being.

4. Stay away from negative people

We absorb the energy of the people around us. Surround yourself with people who make you feel confident and happy and stay away from those who only put you down. Learn to differentiate between sincere advice and criticism from  a good friend and judgmental callous remarks from others.

5. Practice Gratitude

Every single day, every moment of our lives we have so much to be thankful for. Develop an attitude of gratitude by focussing on what you have not what you don’t have. See the shift in your mood when instead of complaining for the electricity or gas bills of your home you feel grateful that you have a home to go to, unlike countless people who are homeless. Every breath you take naturally, every step you walk on your own is a reason to be grateful for your health. Try thinking of at least three things to be grateful for each night you go to bed and you will surely be blessed with good sleep and a fresh start in the morning.

What strategies helped you survive the dark times? Is there anything you wish to add to this list?

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