Tag: stress

Planning ahead or stressing too much?

I am a planner, I love to envision my outcome and slowly work towards it. However one important lesson that life has taught me is ‘not to be controlling’ . We try our best to control events, people and our future but does it work? No !! It only makes us frustrated as our eyes are on a certain prize and when we don’t see things happening as we wish to it upsets the whole equation. So my motto is .

Plan, be prepared but also be flexible.

I can’t understand when some people overdo the planning bit and as soon as a situation comes up they think of the worst possible outcome and keep stressing . I feel this just means putting yourself in agony. Also I am a die-hard positive thinker. It’s infact my survival tool.

I recently came upon an interesting post on linked in, sharing here for reference and credit for this thought-provoking concept that if dealt in the right way can make lives much easier and more pleasant not such for the worrier but people around them. Here it is :

What are your thoughts? Are you a planner or a stressor or simply go with the flow?

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5 Things that help you become stronger

There are times in our lives when we feel down, aches and pains seem to envelop us. There is no energy or will to move on. However, life has to go on and only we can actually get ourselves out of this dismal state. The top 5 things that helped me to move on in dark times are ….

1. Forgive those who have hurt you

Definitely not easy, it takes a lot of strength to actually overcome that negativity and trauma. However, it has become my no.1 survival technique. I forgive not because I am selfless and have a big heart but because I cannot carry that heavy baggage around. Unless I put aside that baggage, I am unable to see the road ahead. Makes sense? .. Try it you will definitely feel much lighter and stronger.

2.  Stop living in the past

How can we ever see a new future when we constantly think, complain about or dwell in the past. What happened earlier, happened for a reason. Learn from the challenges and mistakes and start a new chapter in your life. Your life is what you make of it. Follow your dreams, life is too short to be wasted in self-pity and anger.

3.  Look after your well-being

Eat well, sleep well, exercise daily. A healthy body develops a healthy mind, it keeps you energised and charged to take on whatever life throws at you. Meditate, pray, practice mindfulness .. spend sometime on emotional and spiritual well-being.

4. Stay away from negative people

We absorb the energy of the people around us. Surround yourself with people who make you feel confident and happy and stay away from those who only put you down. Learn to differentiate between sincere advice and criticism from  a good friend and judgmental callous remarks from others.

5. Practice Gratitude

Every single day, every moment of our lives we have so much to be thankful for. Develop an attitude of gratitude by focussing on what you have not what you don’t have. See the shift in your mood when instead of complaining for the electricity or gas bills of your home you feel grateful that you have a home to go to, unlike countless people who are homeless. Every breath you take naturally, every step you walk on your own is a reason to be grateful for your health. Try thinking of at least three things to be grateful for each night you go to bed and you will surely be blessed with good sleep and a fresh start in the morning.

What strategies helped you survive the dark times? Is there anything you wish to add to this list?

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Sign up for FREE webinar on’5 Ways to Beat Fear and Conquer Change’

Hello everyone

I am so excited to invite you to my live webinar on Tuesday 7th August at 7.00 pm London time. This webinar is for anyone interested in personal development. It will introduce participants to successful strategies of beating anxiety; learn to create positive manifestations and build on their core values to have the life of their dreams. By following these simple yet powerful techniques you will learn how the universe has your back when you indulge in the right thought processes.

It will also introduce you to the proven Formula of Success and help you create your Date with Destiny, powerful tools that will give a taster of Transformation Coaching. Please share the link with anyone who you feel can benefit from these life changing ideas.

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I landed with expectations and got consumed with fear….a tale of many new migrants

Change can be very daunting; especially when it is a result of external factors and not initiated by yourself. Yet, being the resilient and adaptable creatures we are we use our skills and experiences to make sense of the change. I sometimes meet young women from  small villages from Kashmir now living in a busy metropolis like London. They epitomise the perfect example of cultural adaptation. The transformations they have to go through to make a place for themselves in a modern country where women have a very different status from what they grew up believing; and the parental challenges they face are just few of the aspects of their huge struggles. Similarly young men and women coming to modern western countries from the developing world full of dreams and fired with enthusiasm in search of jobs often see themselves fall prey to dejection, loneliness and despair. They come with a mind set of giving their best, working very hard, often compromising on the life styles they are used to back home and bearing the separation of loved ones but even all these sacrifices are not enough to help them in their new country of choice. They are coping with so many changes in life at once- an onslaught of new information; dealing with a foreign culture; a different work culture having to interact with people who think and act differently than they are used to. Sounds tough… yet, the road is never too bleak. This transition period is a learning curve that polishes them, slowly they gain confidence and once they feel they ‘belong’ they start contributing as citizens. From ‘feeling lost‘ to ‘belonging‘ is a journey that varies for each individual.

This journey becomes bearable when you have a friend, a mentor or a coach to guide you. Have you ever felt lost? When ? How did you cope?

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