Tag: Relationships

What do your words say even when you are away?

We say so much and forget about it. Encouraging happy words can lift soneone’s spirits and propel them to happiness and success. However harsh words can inflict the deepest wounds, they leave scars that are a reminder of that horrible event/ emotion felt at a time that you wish never happened. We are often told to think before we speak and when our thinking is distorted then perhaps the best way to communicate is to be ‘silent’.. no point in doing more harm than that is already done.

Our words can sometimes leave lasting echoes in people’s minds. What will your words say even when you are away?

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Planning ahead or stressing too much?

I am a planner, I love to envision my outcome and slowly work towards it. However one important lesson that life has taught me is ‘not to be controlling’ . We try our best to control events, people and our future but does it work? No !! It only makes us frustrated as our eyes are on a certain prize and when we don’t see things happening as we wish to it upsets the whole equation. So my motto is .

Plan, be prepared but also be flexible.

I can’t understand when some people overdo the planning bit and as soon as a situation comes up they think of the worst possible outcome and keep stressing . I feel this just means putting yourself in agony. Also I am a die-hard positive thinker. It’s infact my survival tool.

I recently came upon an interesting post on linked in, sharing here for reference and credit for this thought-provoking concept that if dealt in the right way can make lives much easier and more pleasant not such for the worrier but people around them. Here it is :

What are your thoughts? Are you a planner or a stressor or simply go with the flow?

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5 Things that help you become stronger

There are times in our lives when we feel down, aches and pains seem to envelop us. There is no energy or will to move on. However, life has to go on and only we can actually get ourselves out of this dismal state. The top 5 things that helped me to move on in dark times are ….

1. Forgive those who have hurt you

Definitely not easy, it takes a lot of strength to actually overcome that negativity and trauma. However, it has become my no.1 survival technique. I forgive not because I am selfless and have a big heart but because I cannot carry that heavy baggage around. Unless I put aside that baggage, I am unable to see the road ahead. Makes sense? .. Try it you will definitely feel much lighter and stronger.

2.  Stop living in the past

How can we ever see a new future when we constantly think, complain about or dwell in the past. What happened earlier, happened for a reason. Learn from the challenges and mistakes and start a new chapter in your life. Your life is what you make of it. Follow your dreams, life is too short to be wasted in self-pity and anger.

3.  Look after your well-being

Eat well, sleep well, exercise daily. A healthy body develops a healthy mind, it keeps you energised and charged to take on whatever life throws at you. Meditate, pray, practice mindfulness .. spend sometime on emotional and spiritual well-being.

4. Stay away from negative people

We absorb the energy of the people around us. Surround yourself with people who make you feel confident and happy and stay away from those who only put you down. Learn to differentiate between sincere advice and criticism from  a good friend and judgmental callous remarks from others.

5. Practice Gratitude

Every single day, every moment of our lives we have so much to be thankful for. Develop an attitude of gratitude by focussing on what you have not what you don’t have. See the shift in your mood when instead of complaining for the electricity or gas bills of your home you feel grateful that you have a home to go to, unlike countless people who are homeless. Every breath you take naturally, every step you walk on your own is a reason to be grateful for your health. Try thinking of at least three things to be grateful for each night you go to bed and you will surely be blessed with good sleep and a fresh start in the morning.

What strategies helped you survive the dark times? Is there anything you wish to add to this list?

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5 Things that stop you from being successful

Do you know what is your barrier to success? Are you a victim of limiting beliefs about yourself or too chained by societal pressures?  See the video below to find out what are the 5 things you need to avoid to become succesful.

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OPEN YOUR DOOR TO SUCCESS-THE UNIVERSE IS CALLING!! (Special Offer)

 ” My mission is to help people lead a stress-free and successful life of their dreams“~Shaista 

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Sign up for FREE webinar on’5 Ways to Beat Fear and Conquer Change’

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I am so excited to invite you to my live webinar on Tuesday 7th August at 7.00 pm London time. This webinar is for anyone interested in personal development. It will introduce participants to successful strategies of beating anxiety; learn to create positive manifestations and build on their core values to have the life of their dreams. By following these simple yet powerful techniques you will learn how the universe has your back when you indulge in the right thought processes.

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Should you be worried when people start changing?

Today I was prompted to pen down my thoughts on a phenomenon that troubled me. I am usually a patient person with deep trust in relationships. I understand when sometimes people behave out of character but when it starts to become a pattern I start wondering. The first thought that comes to my mind is Have I done something to upset this person? I try to reach out and communicate and ask for clarification but when the responses are cold I know I need to just stop and be patient.

The problem is its not that easy especially when that person is someone close to you. It causes doubts and can create misunderstandings and even negativity. Some time back, I was challenged with the same situation when a few of my close friends felt I had changed and was not as responsive as I usually am. At my end, I know I was struggling with health issues and constant pain that affected my behaviours but I expected others; specially people close to me to understand, but alas this did not happen and I found myself clarifying the situation and also feeling misunderstood and lonely.

Incidentally, I was again in self-doubt recently because of the changed behaviour of a loved one and I could not figure out what had gone wrong. Later, I realised a stressful issue had caused a temporary change in their behaviour; it had nothing to do with me.

The truth is we are too quick to judge, often failing to contemplate the situation of the person. It certainly does not help if you tell the person who is already struggling with some issue that they have changed. I try to practice patience and have faith. Sometimes all of us go through situations in life where we need space for our selves; we need to process stuff or deal with it. Of course there may be other reasons for changed behaviours and perhaps that is a signal for us to take stock and review the relationship.

Have you faced something similar? Open communication is great, but what if you are faced with cold responses? Any thoughts?

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